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                      Esame pratę manyti, jog gyvenimą savo noru palieka jau pusamžės moterys (ir žinoma vyrai) turintys finansinių ir socialinių problemų. Tačiau taip nėra. Iš gyvenimo nusprendžia pasitraukti įvairūs žmonės (net tie, kuriems sekasi!) ir dėl įvairių priežasčių. Šiandien noriu paminėti keletą priežasčių kodėl mirtį pasirenka jaunos merginos ir kodėl būna taip, jog toms merginoms ir nepavyksta nusižudyti.
                      Galbūt pirmiausia reiktų pasakyti, kad vyrų nusižudo daugiau nei moterų. Kodėl? Vyrai ir vaikinai sunkiai sugeba vykdyti du dalykus vienu metu. Na pavyzdžiui. Dažnos turime gerų draugių mokykloje, universitete ar darbe. Mes moterys lengvai užmezgame santykius net toje vietoje, kuri atrodo tam netinkama, vaikinams ir vyrams yra kiek kitaip. Jie daug sunkiau puoselėja ir mezga naujus bei gerus santykius darbo aplinkoje.
                      Taip pat reikia nepamiršti, jog dažniausiai merginų bandymai nusižudyti (kurių pasirodo yra daugiau) yra lengvesni, tarsi paramos ir pagalbos šauksmai. O vyriškosios lyties atstovai iš gyvenimo traukiasi drastiškai ir užtikrintais būdais.
                      
Būna merginos žudosi iš meilės. Tikriausiai taip galima būtų suformuluoti teiginį. Visos žinome, kad mums reikia meilės. Norime turėti tą, kurio geidžiame... Ir mums nesvarbu ar užimtas jis, ar jis tai simpatizuoja ar ne. Mes norime Jo, o ne To Kito. Jei Jis turi kitą ir mums atsako – nusiviliame, kartais net labai. Dar skaudžiau būna tada, kai atrodo Aš ir Jis turime viską... Na žinot, romantika, bučiniai, gėlės, laimė, šypsena veide, vyresnės ir lovoje jaučiasi kaip karalienės. Tačiau staiga... Bum! Jis turi kitą, jis nori skirtis. Kodėl? Juk viskas atrodo buvo tobula. Taip, atrodo... kai nebesijaučiame mylimos manome, kad niekada nebebūsime laimingos. Štai tada nutariama pasitraukti iš pasaulio, kuris atrodo nebemielas ir pilkas...
Psichologai teigia, jog dar viena priežastis kodėl jaunos asmenybės pasitraukia iš gyvenimo yra tobulybės ieškojimas. Pastangos? Siekimas gerų rezultatų, o kai juos gauname jaučiamės pakylėtos ir laimingos. „Čia viskas ok“. Tačiau yra žmonių, kurie nori dar geriau. Na tarkime. Gaunate 8 ar 9 balus už kontrolinį, kuriam labai ruošėtės, tačiau nesijaučiate patenkintos. Atvirkščiai. Jaučiatės įskaudintos, juk galėjote geriau! Ir staiga nukrentate savo akyse, jūs nebeesate puiki ar gera, kad ir kaip nuostabu viskas būtų, savo akyse tampate siaubinga ir apgailėtina būtybe. Kad ir kaip kvailai ar nerealistiškai tai gali skambėti, taip būna. Tokioms tobulybės siekiančioms asmenybėms niekada nebus gana. Man puikus perfekcionizmo pavyzdys atrodo toks anekdotas:
„Iš universiteto pastato išeina nusiminęs studentas. Lėtai nukėblina iki savo automobilio „BMW X5″, atsisėda už vairo ir tyli. Suskamba telefonas. Studentas išsitraukia prašmatnų deimantais inkrustuotą mobilųjį:
 – Alio…
 – Labas, mylimasis, kaip egzaminas?
 – Siaubingai… 9.
 – Na, tu tik nepergyvenk, aš tave šiandien paguosiu. Susitinkam vakare?
 – Ne, nepyk, bet visiškai nėra nuotaikos…
 – Mhm, gaila. Tai ką tu veiksi?
 – Aš nusprendžiau pabūti vienas. Skrisiu į Prancūziją, gersiu šimto metų senumo vyną savo bute Paryžiuje, Eliziejaus laukuose, kol prisigersiu.
 – Aš tave puikiai suprantu, brangusis, pabūk vienas.
 – Aha, iki.
 – Žinok, kad aš tave myliu.
 – Ugu…
 Užveda mašiną ir liūdnai taria:
     Nėr gyvenimo, visai!“
Tokių perfekcionistų pasitaiko. Jie būna nepatenkinti tuo ką turi, tad pasirenka ne ši „netobulą“ pasaulį, o amžiną miegą.
Tikriausiai dar viena priežastis, kuri gana artima pirmajai, kurią paminėjau yra vienatvės, vienišumo jausmas. Žmoguje tarsi užprogramuota nelaimė ir liūdesys, jei jis gyvenime neturi to, į kurį galėtų atsiremti. Neturi artimo, gero draugo, šeimos ar mylimojo. Jei žmogus vienas – jis nelaimingas, o nelaimė ir iki savižudybės pastūmėti gali...
 Galbūt visa tai ką paminėjau jums nėra aktualu, tačiau tikiuosi įdomu. Taip pat tikiuosi, jog niekada nepasirinksite tokio kelio, kurį čia atskleidžiau... Svarbiausia nepamirškite, jog jūsų gyvenimas yra jūsų istorija ir ją galite kuri taip kaip norite jūs, nesvarbu ką galvos kiti... Jūs privalote būti laimingi ir visuomet atsistoti ir išsitiesti po to kai užkliūnate už gyvenimo pakištos „padnioškės“...

„I love you all“ – S. S.

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